Morphing into Motherhood

I was a single mother when I started this journey. When I say that, I mean, the man who I had the pleasure of carrying his child, was not down for the cause when we first discovered there was a baby on board. He has since, to my deep pleasure, changed his tune and prioritizes being a loving father to our son on a daily basis. I am excited to see what the future holds for us.

What got me writing this afternoon is that we are not all that dissimilar, us mothers. I don't think having a man in the picture is such a big deal. What you need is help from someone. Someone to watch your children from time to time so you can be alone or just away from babies. And you need money, the kind of money that two people can make a lot easier than one person. But, like I said, you do not have to have a man to get it done. But, that probably sounds like a load of crap coming from me, like Beyonce getting bold after she gets her ring and advising the rest of us to ask him where my ring at??? Is that what you did B, really? Me thinks not!

That being said, you are an amazing creature all on your own and you need to be applauded for your efforts. Every morning, you wake up a mother and you go to bed a mother, no matter where you are. You may want to turn it off when you go to work but it is a part of what you do, whenever you do it.

I really think we get into trouble when we envy the others around us. You really don't know what someone has to go through to maintain the lifestyle they have chosen for themselves. The woman with a high paying position doing it all by herself may want a man in her life, but the stay at home mom may want financial freedom. Then there is the woman who is happy as hell to be herself and don't care about what you got going on, I'm trying to be that girl.